The Other side of love.

Love ,is a feeling which everyone wants to experience at some point of time. If you look around you will find people who are either happy because they are in love or sad because they are out of love. Now the question is ,has love really become a luxury that only a few can have it ? Love is universal but somehow we have forgotten it. We forget that we are in this universe today because of love and we are full of love , but then why do we see people begging for it when they already have it?I think one can only beg for physical things like food or money , but love, respect and compassion are abundant in each one of us provided we are ready to look within. Love is not to be begged for ,it is always to be found and felt within and shared.

We are conditioned in our society to not to live our lives for ourselves but for others. We are told that If you please others ,you will be liked ,sacrifice yourself for someone and you will be loved. I don’t think we need to disconnect from our being to experience this feeling. Love is what we are. We do not need to give a part of us to experience this basic emotion. Love is free, but today we are expected to pay a heavy price (emotionally and materialistically) to experience it. Sometimes, I wonder how a basic emotion like love has become so complex.

Being a Psychologist I come across many clients suffering in their relationships due to lack of love. The problem only gets worse when they want to fulfil this lack by demanding love from others. Love which is supposed to be unconditional has become conditional. If I look around I see most of the relationship problems arising because we want to change the other person in the name of love , and to get love we even abuse ourselves and others emotionally and physically, but we need to ask ourselves, is it really love ?.Love is a powerful emotion which can either make you or break you ,so it’s important not to cloud this emotion with other emotions like jealousy or possessiveness.

Love is everywhere provided we clear off the dirt of insecurity, hatred,resentment, jealousy from our lenses . Love is something not to be asked for but given freely.